Long time followers might remember a little girl that I named U.G. (Uninvited Guest) on my old blog. This was a kid who came to the house several times without an invitation, and we had quite a few problems because her behavior stank and we couldn't communicate with her mother who didn't speak a word of English.
Danielle had begged to be allowed to spend the night at U.G.'s house, but we always felt uncomfortable with the idea. U.G.'s behavior was an issue, as was the communication impasse, but we had a gut feeling that things weren't quite right over there. Later, we learned that an aunt (who was living with the family) had deliberately burned one of her children after the child had been caught stealing.
We finally put a stop to the girls' visits when U.G. came along on an especially lousy outing. She was openly defiant (and egged Danielle on) when we expected appropriate behavior in a bookstore and in a restaurant. Since we'd had ongoing troubles with her, this was the straw that broke the camel's back. We put an end to visits at our house.
The last time we visited with U.G. was back in January of 2007.
At the time, I felt somewhat guilty for depriving Danielle of visits with her friend. Still, we couldn't find a way around her behavior. We thought about hiring an interpreter to speak with her mother, who seemed nice enough. In the end, we decided it wasn't our responsibility to foster a friendship with a kid who wouldn't behave. Besides, we had some valid questions about her mother's character, simply because her child behaved so terribly.
Still, it turns out that our instincts for keeping Danielle away from the girl (and her family) were correct. We recently heard U.G.'s brother is now wanted for murdering his girlfriend in an extremely horrible and brutal way.
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