Friday, May 13, 2011

The Common Consensus Is...

First an administrative note: It seems Blogger has been having some difficulty, and I haven't been able to get in and manage content for a good chunk of the day.

Next up, it seems I've attracted the ire of a number of unhappy folks who have sent me some pretty nasty comments and have posted a few threats. Okay people, I get it. You don't like me.


I'm sorry that you don't like me or what I have to say. I guess my question to you is this -- if you don't like me so much, and don't like what I have to say, why are you still reading my blog?

That being said, I thought I'd share what the consensus (at least among some of my readers) seems to be...

This video is NOT safe for work. Don't play it in front of the little ones, either.

Okay, fine. Everybody's voiced their opinion. I got it. Enough already.

Back to regularly-scheduled content next week.


  1. This is my favorite part:

    "Back to regularly-scheduled content next week."

    Don't let the haters get you down.

  2. You don't know me bc I just found you. I'm a social worker and a foster parent. I'm not sure you can get anymore expert than that...and for what it's worth, I think you are doing a lot RIGHT! I get it it. And I applaud you for loving this child as your own.

  3. I have read your blog for a very long time.....lost you when u stopped blotting and then just found u again a few weeks ago.
    Whether I agree with everything u say in your posts is beside the point. I come back to read because I feel I e grown to know your family and well let's face it if I or anyone else does not acre. Then......don't come here and read.
    This is your blog. Period.

    I appreciate your openness.
    Bottom line is about life after adoption. I admire that you tell the truth about heats happening in your lives.

    So I'll be here waiting on the regularly scheduled content!!! Have a great weekend:)

  4. Meh. It appears that those that think that you're an...well, y'know...are greatly projecting.

  5. I think that this blog is a WONDERFUL thing for both you and FosterEema. You both have a place to vent, and I know that's key to helping you parent successfully. When I was D's age and going through the same sort of self destructive behavior, my mother journaled, and when I finally made it through the darkness that I thought was my life and started to deal with the things that caused my acting out in my early 20s she could share them with me.

    I know I've commented in the past and I wanted to cheer you on again. I think you're doing a great job in a difficult situation, and I hope that down the line you'll be able to share these posts with D to show her what you were going through. Even if you don't get to that point, this is a virtual support network and we do really care about you all.

  6. Yay, you're still here! I was worried, considering.

    I'm sorry people suck so much, but you still have an active fan club that's rooting FOR you. Blessings to you and yours.

  7. I'm glad you will continue to post. Have read your blog for years. I work in the system and have adopted 6 from foster care with a whole host of issues.

  8. I love that clip, had to use my headphones cause the littles are here, have seen it many times though. I hate haters and trolls to, they are the worst part of blogging.

  9. Don't let the bastards get you down.

  10. First things first..I love that song. I haven't heard it in a long time but remembered the words right away, lol. ~Everyone sing alonggg..~

    I was worried you had yanked your blog for good. I have only been reading it for a short time but I check for new entries pretty much every day now.

    I read it because I appreciate the honesty about the situation you are in. I don't know much of the background story but have been able to piece together some of it.

    Not many people are willing to be brave enough to say they regret their adoptions. I respect you for that honesty. Frankly, just from what you have shared here, who wouldn't regret it?

    Real life is not a Lifetime movie where everyone hugs in the end while the touching music plays.

    As to the hate mail, why bother reading it? Delete unread. Unless one of these people is offering to actually DO something to help, then it is just words.

    Anyhow, when I was lambasted on "another blog that I won't name"...I laughed knowing they don't know the first thing about me...but are all SURE they do.

    We are really just strangers reading about each other's lives, and making whatever judgements we make.

    Honestly, delete unread and continue being honest or your head will explode.

  11. Very glad to see you back. I very seldom comment here, but whether or not I agree with your parenting style, or your writing style, or the color of your clothes, this is your place. People don't have to agree. Just respect. Your feelings are not up for argument. They are yours. Who can argue those anyway?
    So, glad you are back.

  12. I realised I didn't answer the question you asked about why people who don't like you continue to read your blog and then tell you how much you upset them.

    (Although, I am sure they are not using nice words like 'upset'.)

    I think it's similar to why people show up whenever the Nazis/KKK/Fred Phelps/etc decide to make a public appearance.

    We like to shout things at them because it makes us feel better. We are not *them* and have cardboard signs and catchy chants to prove it.

    I am NOT comparing you to one of THOSE whack-a-doos! But I think people like saying nasty things to you for possibly similar reasons.

    It's much easier to criticise you for being honest than admit their "rad-ishes" are wrecking their homes, finances, and family life.

  13. Yeah.... what Barb said. :-)

  14. Oh you are back YAY! I got worried when your blog went missing. I was googling to try to figure out what happened and landed in a forum of what could be some of your trolls.

    Holy smokes...those people are delusional. They simply refuse to see that Danielle IS NOT a normal teenage girl.

    ah well...glad you are back

  15. I just came back from out of town.

    Why can people get a life and leave you alone? I wonder if they think they can do better then they should offer to take Danielle from you and see how "easy" she is. Dang stupid people!

    I love you.


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