Not surprisingly, she is now failing that class.
She hasn't turned in eight assignments. At least some of those assignments were assigned while we were out of town.
Danielle knew, in advance, that we were going out of town. We informed the school that we were going to be out of town, and asked that her instructors send work home with her. Danielle "forgot" at least some of those assignments. We know for a fact that she didn't bring her reading book home, and she denied receiving any assignments from her mainstreamed class, other than being asked to take a few photographs while she was gone.
She barely did any work while we were away. We reminded her a couple of times, but opted not to get into a control battle over homework. The consequences of failing to do her homework were going to be on her, and that's where we left it.
Yesterday, we got an e-mail from Danielle's homeroom teacher that said the following:
We've been trying to help her get caught up. There is not enough time in the day to devote the time she needs to get caught up. She was directed by our staff to bring her [failing subject] book home and work on assignments there. She left the book on her desk. I believe she was also told by Mr. [teacher of failing subject] to take pictures of [failing subject] and label them. I don't know if she followed that directive. She also has had notes downloaded on her gig stick, but never seems to bring it to school. Perhaps you could help her get caught up so she can have a passing grade.
We avoided the temptation to send back a snarky, "we told you so," remark, or to ask the obvious question, "how do you expect us to help her if we don't have the book here?" We politely replied that we would discuss the situation with Danielle, but that our availability to help her is somewhat limited, because of our work schedules.
The real answer is, I'm not going to get into a huge control battle with my kid over school.
We did tell her we expected to see the book, in her hands, tomorrow afternoon, no excuses. We also told her that if she brought home a failing grade on her progress report, there would be some unpleasant consequences.
When she tried to argue, we cut her off. "You know what is expected, you know what the consequences will be if you do not meet our expectations, and that's all we have to say on this subject."
And now we are done discussing the problem.
Of course Danielle tried to argue that she'd already received some consequences at school.
"That may be true," we answered calmly, "but when your teacher says, "perhaps you could help her get caught up so she can have a passing grade," we are going to get involved.
I think a snowflake has a better chance of surviving in hell than Danielle has of passing this class.