While we were in our meeting with the psychiatrist, I was very glad to see that she backed me up on something that has become a small point of contention in our house.
Last school year, Danielle came home and reported that she'd done something highly inappropriate with a boy. We reported it to the school, who promptly investigated, and we never did find out for sure if this was a story Danielle had made up, or if it was something that actually happened. During that same conversation, Danielle expressed a desire to do more private things with this particular boy that could result in pregnancy.
We had a family discussion, and we agreed that Danielle should go on some type of birth control.
Since that decision was made, Danielle has had a certain amount of buyer's remorse. She's experiencing some annoying, but not serious, side effects from the birth control method she selected, and she wants to stop, now claiming that she's not sexually active.
Although we are sympathetic to Danielle's complaints, we have been unsupportive of her stopping birth control, since she has frequently demonstrated that she is untruthful. Is she sexually active right now? It's hard to know. Although I'd like to think she doesn't have much opportunity to be sexual, since she's not allowed to date, and she's never left unsupervised, that doesn't mean that she couldn't sneak off and do something anyway. We know of one girl who had a pregnancy scare because she and her beau had found relative privacy under the school's stadium bleachers.
Could Danielle do something like that? Absolutely.
She needs to be on birth control for everybody's protection. She's not ready to parent her own child at age 16, and we don't want to be grandparents responsible for raising our child's child.
But now, there's an even more important reason for Danielle to be on birth control. Apparently, the antidepressant and mood stabilizer she has been prescribed are both thought to cause birth defects.
During our meeting with the psychiatrist, I mentioned the type of birth control Danielle was using. The doctor was obviously pleased, since she was planning to discuss the issue with us, and announced, "Oh, that's the best one!"
Danielle rolled her eyes and started to complain. The psychiatrist looked puzzled.
I briefly explained that Danielle was on birth control because we thought she was sexually active, while Danielle interrupted and vehemently denied that she had been, contrary to statements she'd made to us previously.
At that point, the psychiatrist put a quick end to the debate. She explained to Danielle that she requires all of her teen patients, whether they are sexually active or not, to be on some form of birth control. Since Danielle is already using what the doctor feels is the best available, there is no room for further negotiation on the subject.
I am greatly relieved.
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